Traveling as a Black Woman

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I absolutely love to travel.  When I boarded a plane for my first overseas trip in 2000, I had not considered what it meant to travel as a black woman. As a matter of fact, I did not consider it at all until years later after I had visited several countries. I was naive to think that the rest of the world would see me differently than how all races, including my own, viewed me in the United States. I would later discover that when I crossed international waters, I did not leave behind the rank I was born into as a black woman in the US or the outward racism that black and brown people face every day. During my travels, sometimes being an American trumps being black, but my blackness is the first thing people see. So, it is the first thing people judge me on.

Since my first trip, travel has become my passion and in one way or another it has taken up a lot of space on my bucket list. Before COVID-19, I traveled to a new country every year. And, with age and experience, every time I set foot on foreign soil, I have a few things running in the back of my mind. How will they receive me as a black woman? What will they think of me? And, will I be uncomfortable for the duration of my trip?

Why now?

You may be wondering why am I talking about this subject now, especially since my blog is focused on my bucket list and solo travel experiences. With everything going on in my country concerning race, it is hard to stay silent about how race has impacted my travels. While the dominant race in the US has a long history of trying to keep everyone in their place, almost every country has also had some sort of system to rank its people. In many ways, those systems may not be visible to those who are not regularly affronted by it, but they are there. For that reason, I am sharing my travel experiences through perspective. I want to highlight that there are constant reminders about where people THINK you should stand or rank in society no matter where in the world you are.

[penci_fancy_heading _text_align=”left” p_title=”Black Girl Meets The World” _title_typo=”font_family:Simonetta%3A%22regular%2Citalic%2C900%2C900italic%22|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” _title_fsize=”35px” _subtitle_typo=”font_family:%3A” _desc_typo=”font_family:%3A” title_color=”#000000″]How I have felt during my travels is not something I have even talked about with my friends or family. The fact that I do not get to shed my skin color when I board a plane and cross borders and international waters, not that I would want to. I truly believe that there has not been a single continent that I have planted my feet on where my color was not part of the discussion or highlighted. Here are a few of my experiences of what traveling as a black woman has been like for me.[/penci_fancy_heading]

Africa

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Sundowner at Amboseli National Park

I had the privilege of living in Africa for a few years and I have been to at least a dozen African countries. My most troubling experience traveling as a black woman has been in Sub-Sahara Africa, particularly in Kenya where I have spent a considerable about of time. I first want to say that I loved my time in Kenya. It is one of the most beautiful countries on the planet. And, I would return anytime I had the chance.  However, this country still has a considerable amount of European and Indian ex-pats. Many of whom treat the Kenyans poorly or in a belittling manner.

In general, I blended in well into Kenyan society as long as I kept my mouth closed. So, ex-pats were always shocked when I rejected how they treated me or even called them out for their behavior. Kenyans are a strong, hard-working, and successful group of people. So, I am generalizing when I say that it is sad to see Europeans and Asians treating such amazing people as only worthy of serving others in their own land. I certainly did not appreciate Kenyans and ex-pats alike generally assuming that I was the driver, maid, or domestic help. I think that is a dark reflection of colonization.

South Africa has its own troubled past with decades of Apartheid. During my travels there, my skin color prompted a deep conversation with some South Africans who wanted to make sure I understood the difference between colored, an acceptable term in South Africa, and black people. I am not exactly sure what were their intentions. But, by definition, they were colored and I could not help but feel like they were trying to make sure that I understood my place in South African society.

Asia

I have had mixed experiences as a black woman in Asia. Asian societies in general are more homogenous. So the few times I have traveled to Asia, I have expected the worst. Most of my worries did not come to fruition, but I think that was probably because cultural norms would not have allowed for it. And, while I am sure that Afro-Americas vacation, work, and live in Asia, I assume it is not at all on the same level as in Europe. It definitely seems like an anomaly for Asians to see people of color walking their streets.

I was most terrified to travel to Japan. Particularly, I thought I would feel out of place or be the center of negative attention. Japan is a very artistic and colorful country, but you cannot always tell. Walking down the street, no matter rain or shine, you will see a sea of people dressed in dark clothes, with dark hair, and umbrellas with one of three colors. I had heard stories of Japanese restaurants turning people away because they were black. So, I begged people to go with just because I was afraid people would treat me the same. However, Japan was awesome. If people felt any negative thoughts towards me, they kept them to themselves. My natural hair fascinated and amazed them, but I could understand why. Natural hair IS amazing.

My experience of traveling as a black woman in Vietnam was slightly different. First, I want to say how much I enjoyed my travels in Vietnam. I based in 4 cities and each place was cool and had their own unique twists. My friend, who is white, traveled with me. She is a fantastic travel partner and this was our third trip together. But, I am the planner and she is more of a fly by the seat of her pants kind of person. So, I planned, booked, and paid for the entire trip. That meant everything was in my name, yet somehow that did not matter.

The Vietnamese deferred to her almost everywhere we went. It did not matter where or the context. If I asked a question, they turned to her to answer it. And, if I asked for the bill at a restaurant, they brought it to her. We started to make a game out of it just to see what would happen.

My skin color was also the topic of a few conversations. Some described my skin color as “strong,” which I took as a compliment. While others talked about not wanting to get dark in a slightly embarrassing way. I really did not let any of it bother me, but I think it is a shame to have these experiences halfway around the world. Even if to some, these experiences seem insignificant,

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Thien Mu Pagoda, Hue, Vietnam

Europe

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Honfleur, France

Traveling as a black woman in Europe has been varied. I have visited the continent more times than I can count on my hands twice over and I love it. However, our European friends are the cause of a lot of racism around the world. Their ties to and their implementation of slavery around the globe are unmistakable. They have purposefully divided tribes, mistreated dark-skinned people, and pitted neighbors against each other. These actions have left its mark on Europe too.

Discrimination is real and overt in many European nations. However, the only place in Europe where I have really felt out of place was in Croatia. I spent two weeks in that beautiful country and they reminded me every day that I was black. I understand that not many black people live or vacation in Croatia, but it was a bit much. People called out to me on the street, pointed at me, and whispered as I passed by. There was not a single day during my two-week trip where Croatians did not harass me because of my skin color. It was exhausting.

South America

The last experience about traveling as a black woman that I want to share is in South America. To be honest, it has been six years since I last visited South American. The continent is full of brown and black people. So, one would assume they are more open to and accepting of people of color. As a matter of fact, many people from South America would claim that racism is only a problem in the United States. Instead, I believe racism is slightly muted and takes on a sometimes less overt form.

In some countries, there is certainly a distinction between whites, Mestizos and Morenos. I spent two months in Chile several summers ago. Okay, I was in college, so it was many summers ago. I was poor and the place I had planned on staying at for the duration of my trip fell through. So, I not only had to find a place to live but a job to pay for that place.

I was shocked that Chileans required people to include a picture of themselves on resumes. That made it easy for them to discriminate against people based on looks, to include the color of one’s skin. I had to find a job where they paid me under the table to teach English to kids. Two of the kids were from Bolivia and were the same skin color as me. The Chilean boys picked on these two Bolivian boys all the time, calling them ugly because of their skin color. Besides those poor Bolivian kids, other Afro-Americans, who spent significant time in Chile, and I were picked on in one way or another.

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São Paulo, Brazil

[penci_fancy_heading _text_align=”left” p_title=”My love for travel continues” _title_typo=”font_family:Simonetta%3A%22regular%2Citalic%2C900%2C900italic%22|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” _title_fsize=”35px” _subtitle_typo=”font_family:%3A” _desc_typo=”font_family:%3A”]These are just a few of my experiences. I would like to reiterate that I am writing about this topic at this time because of what our nation is going through at this moment. Race issues are not a new phenomenon. But instead, I think it is important to note that the entire world suffers from some form of us versus them mentality. It is becoming harder to ignore our pasts. We should not let this moment pass without choosing to do something different. Especially, when the world is paying attention to things they have thought little about before.[/penci_fancy_heading]

Solo Travel: The Truth About Traveling Alone

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I love solo travel for so many reasons. My solo travel adventures started because of my grandmother. About 20 years ago, while sharing a breakfast together, she told me about all of the places she wished she had visited. She considered her life to be a blessed life. However, she did not have the opportunities to travel the way she wanted. I actually think part of my travel bug comes from her.

Solo travel is not for everyone, and I will admit that there may be a few cons. For example, I was unable to find a single food tour in Osaka, Japan, that would allow me to join a tour group. Apparently two was the minimum. Also, for some reason when I go to the beach, some people tend to ask “just one” with a little bit of pity or surprise. You know what? I DO NOT CARE!! Those small things are not enough to keep me from traveling solo, and I think everyone should try it at least once.

I know many women are particularly afraid. I understand the fear…the fear of the unknown, and frankly, I would never guarantee nothing bad will never happen. However, with planning, I have never really felt like I was in any type of danger. There are ways to protect yourself and feel safe. The goal is for your primary focus to be on whatever beautiful environment you are there to experience.

As part of my bucket list adventures, I set a goal to travel to at least 60 countries. I hope to exceed that, but for now that is my goal. So far, I have visited 44 countries. To make my goal possible, solo travel had to be built into my plan. I am a single woman and I think it is important that I do not to wait for people to make decisions, take risks, or be willing to push themselves outside of their comfort zones before I take a trip. This is especially true since the more I travel, the more I want to keep going.

Building Confidence!

Solo travel helps you to build confidence and become comfortable in your own skin. You also get to engage with lots of new and interesting people. With that confidence you gain freedom. Freedom to plan your trip exactly how you want to. You can choose to leave a place you are not enjoying or linger a little longer than you expected to.

Practice makes perfect

My first few solo trips were a tad bumpy. While I am still learning new tricks, I feel very good about going to almost any country alone. I’ve gained enough tools and resources to figure my way around strange places with confidence. That has all come with time and practice. If your first trip does not go according to plan, do not be afraid to try it again. I promise that it gets easier with time.

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Granada, Spain

Tips to help you conquer your fears of solo travels!!

Limit social media: We live in an age of social media where we track everything we do in the moment. Remember that social media also provides nefarious people with detailed information about your whereabouts and travel location, which can be used against you. The best practice is to limit your play by play activities.

Do not wing the important stuff: In general, I book my hotel or Airbnb reservations well before I board the plane. I buy walking maps of cities I am visiting. I also try to gain some understanding of public transportation systems as well as culture and norms. All of my pre planning helps me feel comfortable in a strange environment. I only wing it when I am visiting a country I’ve been to several times and I know what I am getting myself into.

Leave your itinerary behind: It is good practice for you to leave your travel plans, to include plane and hotel reservations, with someone you trust. Someone who cares about your whereabouts.

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Solo travel in Morocco

Research the town: Take some time to research the town you plan to stay in. Every city is different and what seems alright in one place, does not work in another. In large cities, I try to stay close to a metro stop. It will save you a lot of time and make getting around a lot easier.

Do not be afraid to get out and see things: You have gotten up the courage to travel on your own. Maybe you have endured a long flight or car ride to reach your destination. Take every opportunity to see all that your heart desires. For me, that usually includes taking a very long time in a museum or spending a little too much money on a meal. It is also easier to get distracted when you are alone and that is a good thing. It is one my favorite parts about solo travel.

Join a day tour: If you are unclear about how to navigate a city or how to accomplish an activity, then joining a day tour makes things easier. Day tours help me manage logistics, like pick up and drop off from lodging and transportation to the tour site. They also usually provide lots of information about the site I am visiting. It is the easiest way to see things you may have not otherwise seen on our own.

I have been lucky to come across mom and pop restaurants and shops, received lots of information about temples, cathedrals, and mosques, and gained a ton of historical knowledge. My favorite tour companies are Viator.com and Getyourguide.com, but there a many others that can help ease your travels.

Dining alone: Dining alone can be the hardest part of traveling solo. I eat out by myself all the time in the US. But, for some reason it feels different on a trip. This is especially true if I want to go to a fancy restaurant solo. However, I do not think you should skip out on good places to eat just because you are by yourself. I tend to find restaurants with bars or outdoor seating, which take off of the pressure of eating by myself, and I also always have a book with me.

Thailand: 15 Things You Must Do

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Thailand was the first Asian country that I visited. It is such a beautiful, interesting place that even after almost two weeks of travel, I felt like I had just begun to discover the country’s gems. I did try to squeeze in as many of the highlights as possible. Here are what I think are the 15 things you must do in Thailand.

 

See Bangkok’s sites

Bangkok is one of the busiest cities in Thailand. I think the best way to get around to see the major sites is to join a tour group. I use Viator.com to see places, such as the Grand Palace, Temple of Emerald Buddha (reclining Buddha), and Wat Arun Ratchavararam. If you prefer to see these sites on your own, it is doable, but I recommend that you take time to plan how you will get around the city.

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Do a bike tour of Bangkok

I did a few bike tours in Thailand, but rolling around the streets of Bangkok was my favorite. I enjoyed my 3-4 hour bike tour around Bangkok, where you can visit a lot of the local, less touristy sites. During our ride, we visited the flower market and China Town. We even stopped by a lovely bug snack stand. Yes, you read right! The bug snack stand had lots of options. Unlike most of the other people in the group, I did not have the guts to try them.

Watch a Muay Thai fight

Muay Thai or Thai boxing is a full contact sport that is Thailand’s national sport. The best fights are in Bangkok at Lumpinee Stadium.

Eat street food

Thailand has some of the best street food in the world. In Bangkok, you can find street food, such as Pad Thai, fish cakes, fried veggies, and whole fish throughout the city. The food is usually very fresh, often times made right in front of you.

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Take a cooking class

I love Thai food and I am always trying to replicate my favorite dishes at home. As a result, I was on the hunt for a good place to learn how to make Thai dishes. There are many cooking schools throughout Thailand and most of them are very affordable. I prefer schools that have their own farm and grow fresh veggies to use in the cuisine. I took my class in Chiang Mai at the Thai Secret Cooking School.  During an 8 hour course, the instructors demoed every course we made. Then, we made several dishes from scratch, to include curry paste that we used to make a delicious green curry. Many of the ingredients came directly from the school’s organic garden. The school provided us a cookbook with all of the dishes we prepared during the course.

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Do a food tour

Thailand was the first country where I did a food tour. It was such a positive experience that I now do food tours in most countries I travel to. The benefit is that you will go to mom and pop restaurants that have been family owned for generations and taste things you might not otherwise come across.

Get outside of Bangkok

I love the fast-paced nature of Bangkok, with its beautiful temples framing the city’s backdrop. However, there are so many diverse things to see in Thailand. The beautiful mountainous regions in the north that are touched by Chinese influence is something you should not miss. The beaches and islands are some of the best and most beautiful in the world.

Visit Chiang Mai

Chiang Mai is part of the mountainous region of Thailand in the northern part of the country. Cooler temperatures and green landscape will make you feel more relaxed than spending time in Bangkok. It is home to numerous temples, to include the must see Wat Phrathat Doi Suthep. I used Chiang Mai as a base city, to enjoy other parts of the region.

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Wat Phrathat Doi Suthep

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Wat Phrathat Doi Suthep

Get a massage

In Thailand, it’s a must to get a Thai massage. Well, sort of. I definitely wanted to get a massage in Thailand, but I opted out of the “Thai” part of it. I enjoyed my massage at Peak Spa in Chiang Mai, where I had a body wrap, a 60-minute massage, and a milk bath. It was all fantastic. The one difference is that the massage is literally a FULL body massage. Your bottom and breasts will definitely get a rub down. I was a little taken aback at first, but once I relaxed, I fully enjoyed it.

Get a fish pedicure

What in the world is a fish pedicure? That is the question I asked the first time someone recommended that get one. A fish pedicure is when you put your feet into a tank of warm water filled with garra rufa fish. They swim around the tank and eat the dead skin off of feet, leaving them callous free. Now, this practice is banned in some US states and other parts of the world because it is considered cruel to animals. I did not get one done because it just seemed weird, but many people enjoy it.

Khantoke dinner and Dance

I went to a Khantoke dinner and dance at the Old Chiang Mai Cultural Center, which was created in 1970 to showcase Northern Thailand culture. The dance and performances are based on long-standing traditions.  You will sit on bamboo mats on the floor and will be served a large amount of northern Thai food. I was on this trip by myself, so I definitely could not eat everything they served me. The meal was quite good though. While you enjoy dinner, there will be a variety of traditional Thai dances on stage, a sword dance and a drum performance. You can book a tour on Viator.com, which includes transportation.

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Visit the elephants

I love elephants! They have so much personality. You can have an up-close and personal experience with them in Thailand. There is a lot of controversy over whether or not people should ride elephants, especially with harnesses and carriages strapped onto the elephants’ backs. However, there are companies that try to focus on the humane treatment and care of elephants. I visited Elephant Nature Park on the outskirts of Chiang Mai where I learned about how to monitor the health of the elephants, fed and bathed them, and then did a short bareback ride on the elephant.

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Check out Thailand’s islands

Most people think of Phuket or Krabi when considering beach locations in Thailand. However, I think it is worth staying on one of Thailand’s many islands instead. I traveled to Ko Lanta, where it is quieter and more relaxing than the touristy spots.

Island hop

With more than 300 islands in Thailand, if you are staying on the coast or on one of the islands, you should definitely island hop. There are four island tours from Krabi, Thailand as well as several options to visit some infamous sites like Ko Mook Emerald Caves and Phi Phi island.

Go scuba diving

Scuba diving was one of the items on my bucket list to check off during my trip to Thailand. The water and marine life are some of the most beautiful in the world. Also, Thailand’s dive schools are PADI certified, so I felt like I was going to be in good hands. If you have checked out my bucket list, then you will know that scuba diving was on my adventure list. I thought the experience was amazing, but I’m not sure I can stomach doing it again. Regardless of my fears, I still thought it was well worth it. If you are an experienced diver or just like the occasional plunge, Thailand is ranked high on scuba divers’ list.